Because Your Relationship is Reciprocal

Day #12 of the #loveyourbodychallenge from Molly Galbraith of GirlsGoneStrong.

Reason #12 to Love My Body:  Because Your Relationship is Reciprocal

I love this one because it's so true and because it's something that I think we've forgotten as a society.  As we create lots and lots and LOTS of artificial gunk to put in our food (from artificial sweeteners and colors to GMOs), we forget the old adage of "garbage in garbage out."

 I watched a fascinating episode of Cosmos last night with my family about evolution and how we have taken billions of years to evolve certain genetic dispositions.  And, as I listened to Neil de Grasse Tyson speak so eloquently, all I could think about was how the so called "modern diseases" have expanded so much over the past few decades and how our obesity epidemic is getting out of control.  And how much of that is caused by that "garbage in garbage out" philosophy.  Our bodies are not yet used to digesting and handling our way of life.  Eventually, I do believe that we will "garbage" ourselves into extinction.  Confused about what I mean?  Go watch Wall-E.  This is a scary representation of what humans could be sending themselves to in the future.  A world where we are morbidly obese riding around on cars all day long.  We are putting garbage such as artificial sweeteners and genetically modified foods into our bodies.  To compound the issue, the "fresh" stuff that we are getting isn't nearly as good for us as it used to be.  (See part one of this Paul Chek video series if you have some time...it's the first in a series of fascinating talks about why dirt is important.)  And the mental garbage that we feed ourselves is JUST as bad!!  I've spent the last few blogs talking about the disservice we do to ourselves in negative self talk and the "yeah buts.." and I'm not going further into it in this one.  But, that's MORE garbage in!!!

Now, I'm not immune to this.  I'm sitting here on my second latte (with splenda) of the day and enjoying myself.  I've had all sorts of things today that I would lump into the "garbage" category.  Worse, I'm not even putting any good exercise in.  (Yes...I consider sitting on my lazy ass at Starbucks part of the garbage in category.)  But, it's something I'm keenly aware of.  When I eat more fresh fruits, vegetables and lean natural proteins, my body feels better.  I have more energy and I enjoy life.  The more processed and bagged and boxed foods I eat, the more lethargic I feel and the worse I feel about myself.   And the worse I feel about myself, the more negative self talk I do.  And that leads to entire cycle of garbage in (physical, mental, emotional) and that's why I feel as yucky as I do some days.

So how do we break that cycle?  Pick one piece of garbage to THROW OUT!!!  And refuse to allow that garbage back in.  You could try to take all the garbage out at once but that might be a bit overwhelming!  So, create yourself a garbage bin (no recycle logos on it), and slowly pick things to get rid of.  It might be artificial sweeteners.  It might be cable TV or video games or even Facebook.  It might be that annoying person whose statuses just irk you the wrong way every time.  Whatever or whoever it is....THROW IT OUT!!!!  :)

NEED HELP?  Here's a pic to post on your fridge:

Hiatus

SIX MONTHS.

It's been six months since I've posted about my journey.  Previously, if it had been six months, even I would have thought I had fallen off the proverbial wagon.  But, the truth is that life happened.  As it does to us all.  And, in the hustle and bustle of trying a new career, getting my personal training certification, and enjoying time with my friends and family, my blog tumbled into the wayside.  I thought many times about different posts and how I could write them.  And finally, I realized that I just needed to do it....  so, six months of blog posts... Reader's Digest Style.

November -- A New Career!
Yep...I've decided to get my certification for personal training and nutrition!  I've officially signed up for online classes and have a shiny new backpack emblazoned with NASM to prove it!  I did what I do best and created a study guide to follow!  Here's to six months of studying!

December -- A New Career....Part Two!
So, three weeks into my journey to Personal Trainer-dom, I've been offered a job with American Income Life selling life insurance to union members.  I never would consider this except that the guy I'll be working for is one of the most inspirational people I've met and I really think I could learn something from him.  Are sales my forte?  Hahahahhhahaha!  But...I figure it's something I'm going to have to learn for my new career as a trainer.  Right?  So....here goes studying my butt off for the test!

January -- New Year.  New Me.
I finally got the clearance to lift again back in the middle of November!  FINALLY!!!  But, between travelling for Thanksgiving and for my mom's award ceremony and Christmas, getting to the gym just never seems to happen.  Cause...ya know...life.  But, no excuses.  I'm maintaining my weight and ready to get back to it.  I've created myself a new workout plan like the rest of the planet and I'm looking forward to getting my goals back on track for me.

February-April -- Passion
Three months of my life given over to selling insurance.  And I learned something intensely important.  To sell anything, you have to be passionate about one of two things: whatever your product or service is OR making money at any cost.  I have never ever been motivated by dollars and insurance is definitely not something I'm passionate enough about to sell it well.  So, I'm taking three weeks to study my butt off for the PT test and then back to the drawing board!

And that brings me to May....which will be the subject of my next post!  :)

(Oh...and that PT test...PASSED!)

Are You Ready?

"I'm working my way into it."

"Starting small...that's how I'm going to do it."

"I'm too busy."

"I don't have time."

"I'll start when life gets less hectic."

"I couldn't do that.  There's too much work."

I have heard these reasons (excuses) from various people (including myself) throughout the years as to why they haven't yet made exercise or nutrition a priority in their lives.  Most of them (myself again included) believed in what they were saying.  What I've learned is that all of those items really mean one thing: "I'm not yet ready to make that change in my life."

It doesn't matter if their doctor has said that they have to change their ways.  It doesn't matter the prevalence of cancer or diabetes or heart disease in their family history.  It doesn't matter if they are unhappy with what they see in the mirror.  What they are really saying is that right now, in their lives, they aren't ready to make that change.  And NOTHING external will force that change to happen until they are willing and ready to accept that change in their lives.

I have unfortunately had the occasion to need to lose more than 50 pounds during more than one time in my life.  I would like to claim that both of these were related to pregnancy but they weren't.  I'd like to say that I saw a need for change and was "too busy" or "nothing worked."  But, my reality is that I wasn't ready to change.  Life was always "too something" for exercise, eating right, and prioritizing my health.  But, when that something clicked in my brain, weight loss was effortless.  I'm not claiming it just melted off and I didn't work hard for it.  But, when my brain was engaged in the activity and I was ready for the change, there was nothing that could stop me.  Logging and weighing every food I ate didn't seem like a chore.  Drinking water instead of soda was easy.  Going to the gym five times a week became fun.  And when both my body and my brain were engaged together, change happened.  It didn't happen overnight.  But, that day when I looked at the scale and my brain registered 50 pounds lost, I didn't remember it being difficult.  (I'm sure my husband and coaches would disagree that it wasn't difficult or stressful at times.)  But, my memory is that the scale just moved consistently.

So, when are you READY to make a change?  That varies by person.  I can't tell you when you are ready to make that change.  But, I can tell you that trying to change when you AREN'T ready will only lead to cheating, disappointment, and frustration.  Find your own spark.  Find what makes you tick and what makes it FUN.  And make those goals short term.  Don't focus on the 20 year reunion in 2 years or the anniversary trip in 1 year.  Focus on the athletic goals -- best a PR, log your food for seven days, lift a little more than you did last time.  Or heck...just make it a point to walk around the block every day.  Every little success will help you become ready for an even greater one.  Until...one day, you will have found a lifestyle change without even planning it.

Decline of Physical Activity

It has been proven time and time again that physical exercise has both physical and mental health benefits.  Given that, why do people continue to resist the idea of exercise?

It would be super easy to blame laziness and lack of education.  But, the truth is that I don't believe these are to blame.  People are more aware of health and the importance of being at a healthy weight than ever before.  There are thousands of exercise and diet books published in the world today along with shows like Biggest Loser.  Most Americans are aware that poor health can lead to catastrophic health effects.  So, why do people continue to put off exercising?  I believe the reasons have their roots in youth activity and grow into the problems of adults.

Childhood obesity is such an epidemic in the United States that it is Michelle Obama's pet project.  The National Football League has their Play 60 program.  And there are sports camps for children at almost every recreation center or YMCA.  So, why does obesity continue to be a problem?  First, these programs are all well and great for the children who can afford them or for the families who have the ability to have someone home in the early afternoon to take their kids to them.  But, for the vast majority of two income households, physical activity such as these are difficult to make happen.  And, in the wake of No Child Left Behind, our children's physical well being has been left in the wake of decreasing test scores.  With the increased importance on "the test," physical education has been dropped from many school curricula.  The emphasis on reading and writing seems to have forgotten the fact that without physical health, emotional and mental health are hard to come by.  Even Maslow's hierarchy of needs puts physical health at the bottom of the hierarchy.  You can't even begin to think about learning at school until those needs are met.  I'm sure that Maslow didn't intend for his hierarchy to be used that way but it's true.  A student who is obese and hungry throughout the day because of a glucose intolerance and a lack of a way to burn off the excess energy is going to have difficulty focusing in class.

As for youth sports, I'm almost afraid to touch the subject!  Youth sports are an amazing way to get kids active.  But, children are starting them earlier and earlier as a way to prepare for both middle school (if it's offered) and varsity level sports.  And sports are a great way not only to build up physical activity, but to learn teamwork and social skills.  But, the percentage of students that successfully make the leap from a varsity high school sport to college is very slim.  Only 4.95% according to the NCAA.  And from there to a professional sport?  Even slimmer.  So, what then, should be the focus of youth sports?  Instilling a love of sport, physical activity, and teamwork.  So what happens to the other 95% of youth who play high school sports?  Some will play sports for fun in college or in recreational leagues as adults.  But most will go on to a sedentary lifestyle of spectatorship.  As these young adults graduate from high school to adulthood, there ensues a new problem.

For adults, I see the main contributor of physical inactivity as lack of priority.  Many adults do not see activity as an essential activity such as a job or picking the kids up from school.  It is a to-do item to be checked off on their list.  They may maintain a gym membership (if cost allows) but actually going is a matter of "finding the time."  And, for many of them, the habit of activity broke down after they finished school.  And, once that habit is lost, it is incredibly difficult to wrestle yourself back into it.  Even time for a rec sports league must be weighed against the time needed to prepare dinner, get the kids bathed, and have quality time for your significant other.  Unfortunately, this physical activity is not seen as a necessity, but as a luxury.  And, as such, it is the first item that is dropped when time or money rears it's ugly head.

For those adults who are motivated to continue their activity, going back can be overwhelming enough to stave off even the best intentions.  A quick internet search of "what should I do at the gym to get started," yields so many varying results that lots of people just go with what they see others doing -- namely cardio and weight machines.  These are easily learned and easily accomplished.  Most gyms even provide a television for you to watch while you wile away your time on the hamster wheel.  But, this can get boring and lead to a lack of results if you don't know how to program a routine to achieve the results you want.  So, when they see a lack of results (because your body doesn't care if you spend an hour on the elliptical if you eat half a cheese pizza for dinner), they give up and go back to their unhealthy ways.

So, if Americans know about healthy exercising habits and have a variety of reasons to not follow them, how do we fix that as a country?  First, bring back physical education for youth.  Make physical activity FUN!  Get rid of anything but recreational sports at a youth level.  The expectation of a middle schooler should not be excellence, but focused on the other wonderful things you can learn from sport.  As adults?  Hire a qualified trainer.  Join Fitocracy.  Do all sorts of things that will get you back into activity.  Can't afford a trainer?  Don't know where to start?  Start with a walk.  If that's easy, increase the pace or the distance.  Once you start, it gets easier to make physical activity a priority -- not just something to do when it's convenient.  After all, health is the basis of life.